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Well guys I just found out that I am going to be a Daddy again. At age 40 I am not real excited about this and it comes as a total surprise. I thought I was done with 1 child but it seems things change.
Any words of encouragement would help. I feel as though I should be happy about this ,but I am just not excited as I feel I should be and that bothers me.
Carrie and I were dead set against having any kids. then she got pregnant at 39. Needless to say, not only was I not "happy", I was flat out UNHAPPY. Tim will tell you that more than once I talked about pushing my wife down a flight of stairs - and only half joking.
Now, you have one already, so you already know that it's an insane amount of work and an insane amount of money having a kid, but you also know that in the end it's totally worth it. I won't lie to you, I'm one tired azz MO FO every stinking day. I was already a wreck before the kid, now I'm aging at at least twice the rate I should be. But, again, it's worth it. she's still the greatest thing I've done in my life.
At just a few weeks shy of 42, I am shocked to see so many of my friends STILL having kids. I guess 40 IS the new 30.
I wouldn't change a thing, except I might have started sooner. The worst part, for me, is wondering how long I will be around for her. Will I make it to graduation? wedding? grandkids? That's really the only thing that bothers me.
Congratulations to you and Mrs Mike. It will all be good, bro
"Well guys I just found out that I am going to be a Daddy again."
I guess as long as your wife never finds out, that is something to be happy about!:p
All kidding aside, I know where you are coming from. My son was born when I was 25. I coached his soccer teams for 8 years and we even played on mens open division teams together when he was in junior High and High School. There is no way I could have done all of that if he had been born when I was 40. BUT, I would have found other ways to stay involved with him. You can too. They grow up a lot faster now than we did as kids, so sharing some hobby time or other common interest will be awesome.
Thanks Sean, I Really feel ya Bro. I haven't gone to the extreme thinking about the stairs, lol ! My daughter is a great joy and when she is 16, I will be 50. I just noticed my 1st gray hairs and like you I wonder how long I will be around for this one. I had a bout with Cancer at 39 and it has been almost 1 year,so maybee I am just emotionally drained from that.
All is good so far with the C,but it always lingers in the back of my mind. I guess I just need to dig down deep and get that little something to get over the hump .
Thanks for the support guys :)
Lots of cancer in my family. Lots of early deaths. And I am far from the picture of health. One thing I've learned watching it all these years - The C is either gonna get you, or it isn't. If it does, you'll either make it through or it'll kill ya. Nothing you can do about any of it so no sense losing sleep. I can't stop living my life because I'm worried about when it will end. No one gets off the planet alive. Best thing you can do is concentrate on what you do while you're here and not what you'll miss when you're gone.
Awesome that you are a year out already. See how fast that went? It will all come together. You will see.
Hell Mike you have a lot less gray hair than I do, and I haven't even started having kids yet! Nothing wrong with having them into your 40s (I hope - I'm 36), there's just a push for people to not procreate. I blame it on the sexual devolution of the 1960s and liberalism.
You'll do fine, man!
Eli
Bro, 40 is not too old by a long shot. I had my youngest at 37.
Mike
I had my youngest at 39, now 14 years later she is my pride and joy and my shooting buddy. Don't worry the creator don't give us what we can't handle!!!!!!!
Mike
Mike
We only had one child, while she is my pride and joy we never at the time wanted to have another
There were always excuses, not enough money,to busy ,etc, etc. Bottom line I look back now and really wish we would have had another .
You will be fine my friend, The Lord has blessed you
My wife wants to try for a Boy,I told her she is nuts.We are just at the point of paying our bills,and feeding the kids,and my health only gets worse...WE DO NOT need another,but she is only turning 30 and said her"clock is ticking" :(